Remembering simple

I find it hard.

I look at the beautiful girl in the video with her swingy hair and perfect studio and I can’t help thinking,

“If I had the scrapbooking kit she’s promoting, I’d probably be happier.”

It’s as if I think some of her gloss would shower over me like confetti as I opened the box.

I may be over my spending compulsion days, but shopping remains a question mark area for me.

I swing between the utter conviction that simplicity is the way to go, and the gnawing ache that I’m missing out on all the good stuff.

For one project I’ll happily work on the back of an old envelope, then in the next breath, I’ll be online ordering a Β£20 sticker book.

It’s almost certainly a question of balance: investing in just enough proper product that my stash of printables and haberdashery finds feels rounded out.

The tricky part of trying to live a simple life is the fact that nice treats do give us a happiness boost, especially when the rest of life is not playing so nicely.

That Β£20 sticker book? One of the best stash boosters I ever bought.

But the hair and the studio and the glossy life? I’ve yet to find a kit company that can supply all that.

I need to see the product for what it is – nice product – and be reminded that it’s when those glossy treats are dripped sparingly into a wider picture of simplicity and gratitude that I seem to encounter the deepest joy.

21 thoughts on “Remembering simple

  1. I totally hear you, it’s so easy to get sucked into a splurge, especially when a kit comes out and you love every piece, I’m looking at you ‘Color Fresh’ and ‘Sunny Days’ – nightmare!!

    I also can completely understand the need to have a little spree when times are hard, you’re so right that it does give you a happiness boost. Its just worth reminding yourself that while filling the hole with purchases does have a temporary sunshine fix, it also sometimes manifests itself it other creepy ways where you feel buyers remorse/guilt and then you roll into a bit of a sadness spiral – been there, done that – haha.

    As you say so much, its all about balance – little treats, little wins and paying attention to yourself and how you’re feeling are key, keep it simple, baby πŸ˜‰

    x

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  2. Buyers remorse… yes, gosh, didn’t even consider that. Incidentally, you’ve reminded me of my favourite film, ‘Clueless’ there – that was the first time I ever heard that expression! xxx

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  3. Haha, I love that movie. Every time I drive, I think of when she bashes into the parked car and says ‘Oops, should I write them a note’ – such a funny film! πŸ™‚

    xxx

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  4. Hahaha, happily it’s been quite a long time since I’ve ‘had a tap’ – I hadn’t passed my test that long when my dad had a skip delivered on our drive way while I was at work… I came home in the dark, didn’t notice it (even though it was a massive yellow skip) and reverse-parked into it – I blamed him, naturally πŸ˜‰

    I’m sure your driving is fine!! Haha
    xxx

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  5. Oh no! What a shame. Did you cry? I’d have cried.

    I once dinked a neighbour’s car and the guy had such as go at me, that my Dad went out and… well, words were exchanged, lol.

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  6. Haha, I seem to remember crying in the kitchen and telling my mum I shouldn’t be driving! I got over it fairly quickly though! πŸ™‚

    Oh no, that’s horrible that your neighbour shouted at you, well done on your dad for sorting it out with some firm words – love it.

    xxx

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  7. That confetti layout is to die for and did you give up waiting for the white cardstock – I love the kraft alternative, gives you the chance to drip white paint around.
    I used to splurge much more when I had more money, but for at least 5 years I’ve been on a stash diet and using up old stuff supplemented by new bits which, like you say, give a pop to the old stuff. However, recently, I had my birthday and the kids gave me cash to buy new stash, and I looked and I couldn’t see anything I really wanted! It’s never happened before, and I’m sure it won’t last but at the moment I’m feeling that I’ll just hang on to my little cash stash until I see something I really want. Please keep mix and matching, you are much more of an inspiration than the kit videos and blogs because I don’t have that kind of throughput of stuff, and I have to make things go together.

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  8. Oh, that’s so nice to read and reassuring that I’m on the right track in all of my recent thoughts…

    I’ve been hankering after the old days of cut-apart papers and making things from wrapping paper. πŸ˜‰

    Wow, I’m amazed that you couldn’t find anything you wanted (I can regularly fill my basket with £££ worth of treats in fantasy shopping hauls, ha ha) but good for you for knowing what you love and waiting for it.

    Thanks again for your ongoing encouragement – it means an awful lot xxx

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  9. I’m always happy when the season of new collections doesn’t produce anything that I like and “must have!” That way I can’t spend my money on bits I don’t need πŸ˜‚ At the same time, I sometimes have to ban myself from checking the Felicity Jane site every first of the month, because I want all the things! It definitely doesn’t hurt to treat yourself one in a while though. I find that I need to keep reminding myself to keep it simple, that I don’t really need anything more. Also, the last few scrappy things I bought were digital products, which are a blessing if I’m honest. I love that I can print my favorite papers anytime I want!

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  10. Oh, I’m definitely with you on the Felicity Jane unboxings… very dangerous ground for fomo πŸ˜‰

    And yes, it can be handy when the latest offerings don’t float our boats. I think it doesn’t help right now that I’m slap bang in the middle of a season of wanting everything that Heidi Swapp puts out… hopefully her next line will be orange. Orange and purple. xxx

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  11. Lesley crane

    I love the white paint on kraft. Looked like a lot of fun to do ! Can’t work out how you did the lettering though. It looks like it’s cut in some kind of paste? Please let me know as it looks outstanding! Your blogs always give food for thought and a smile plus some spiritual lift! Keep up the good work.
    Blessings x

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  12. Funny; I bought some gorgeous tissue paper this week because I thought I could make something with it!!
    I think you have a style and are developing a lifestyle all your own, and God made us to be us, unique, beloved, distinctive. Was it C.S. Lewis that wrote that we each are created with something God wants and nobody else can fulfill it? I don’t know if it’s true but it’s a powerful thought.
    Seeing someone (you) step out in confidence (or even blind faith) in their identity in Christ, with all that it means in our imperfect humanity is such an inspiration to try it for myself. Stay you! 😘

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  13. Ah, thanks so much Lesley! I hand-cut the letters from the kraft board… it was a bit fiddly and it’s very scruffily done (!) but it worked πŸ˜‰ I thought about backing it with coloured papers, then decided I liked the white – as usual, ha ha! xxx

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  14. jamie pate

    oh dear suse…
    your words…yet again…
    right to the heart, in my opinion.
    as one women going through her own personal crisis as well as midlife unraveling, this subject as well as others that surround it are presently taunting me.
    while not the beautiful girl, swingy hair or the perfect studio, I do stump the product. and i am really questioning that. As I get older I do want simpler. I think I scrap so much better with less stuff. And you have inspired some of that.
    Keep sharing. Keep writing. And keep making your pretty stuff.
    The audience is listening.
    ~j

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  15. Oh sweet friend, I can hear pain in your words and I hope you know that I am always on the end of an IG message with an email address that we can chat properly via, if it might help you.

    There’s an awful lot to envy about your life and career and yes, you do have the nails and swishy hair and gorgeous home! But you have heart and gentleness and make such inspiring projects that I hope you see what a gift you are to this community and industry.

    When it comes down to it, we need beautiful things to create beautiful projects… those beautiful things inspire us and keep us all excited and so so happy with the end results. In showing us how to use all the things, you – and others in your position – are doing us a huge service.

    I think for me, it’s about remembering that it’s just stuff. That is doesn’t have magic powers and that the scruffy little life I live is just fine as it is without any polishing.

    But keep on, please. Your light in this scrappy world shines so very brightly and I’m wondering in these days of trolling and internet insanity whether we don’t need gems like you more than ever before. xxx

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  16. Conni

    Same here, I feel kind of relieved if Crate Paper puts out something I don’t like as much πŸ˜‰
    For me, it has also been a longer process to find out what I really like and to NOT by all the other stuff (especially in 1€ shops or AliExpress where I was just attracted by the low prices).

    Also, for me it can be a trap: 1. Feeling dissatisfied when I don’t have enough time to scrapbook (or don’t have the energy to make the time for it). 2. “Treat myself” 3. End up with a scraproom/ desk which is even more overwhelming… Balance, that’s it πŸ™‚

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  17. Gosh yes, these things are so often cycles, aren’t they? I’m very often in this one: 1. House feels out of control & I get unhappy 2. Scrapbook to cheer myself up 3. House more out of control than ever

    But yep: it’s balance. It’s scrappy times and chilling out with a book times; shopping times and using up stash times… thanks for the comment, lovely xx

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  18. Dear Suse,
    I can’t reply to your answer anymore as the thread is already too long πŸ˜€ so I’ll comment here.
    Seems to be quite a topic you’ve addressed according to all those comments.

    Your comment about the house-out-of-control made me laugh…it’s so true! Or in my case (started a new job this week and I’m very exhausted in the evenings. I often have to decide: Do I want to tidy up my scrappy desk or craft instead?)
    1. Deciding to do something creative.
    2. Being so overwhelmed by the messy desk that I cannot make beautiful things. Rather doing “a bit here, a bit there” with the mess that’s lying around.
    3. Feeling semi-happy about crafting. Not liking the results.
    4. Of course, not tidying up yet again. πŸ˜€
    Will there ever be a way to break those cycles? ;)…

    Have a great weekend!

    PS: Using up our stash can feel sooo good! Hope to dive into it this weekend.

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