Be kind to you

Sometimes I think we girls need to take a little extra care of ourselves to stay in a good spot.

Here are some of the things that are currently helping me to keep my head above water…

I’m watching what information I’m filling my day with

Even down to not picking up the ladies magazine that has a little too many illness-related articles in it, I’m aware that I need to be extra choosy about what I’m surrounding myself with when I’m a little on the wobbly side, mental health-wise.

I often find myself needing to scale back my social media consumption and avoiding the news altogether.

For me, feel-good input includes more Escape to the Country, more Glee (!) more positive podcasts and more novels that I know won’t be troubling: I’ve just re-read Rebecca and loved the sheer escapism of all the drama.

I’m getting less accomplished

I have a tendency to try and get a week’s worth of chores done in one day, but deciding to slow it all down a bit can be a really good idea.

Right now, I’m tackling one or two jobs that I’d like to get done each day, then leaving the rest of the ‘to do’ list for another day.

I’m also making a little more time than usual for activities that are refreshing and good for my soul: gardening, crafting and reading.

I’m lightening up in the creation department

It’s okay to make something completely daft from time to time; it’s okay to make an uber-simple layout or to abandon creation altogether if we’re just not feeling it right now.

Unless creativity is your job, it’s sometimes a brilliant idea to hit the red light and give yourself a proper breather. That way, you can come back feeling refreshed, inspired and raring to go.

I’m watching the self-talk

I don’t know about you, but I’m not the best of friends to myself. I don’t speak to myself all that gently or encouragingly and it’s so important that we do, especially if close family supporters are thin on the ground.

I’m making sure that I’m telling myself,

“I’m proud of you: look at all you’ve dealt with and how you’re still up for more challenge.”

It’s helping.

I’m working on self-acceptance

I wonder if we waste an awful lot of time not really liking ourselves. I know I have, over the years. But what a pointless waste!

I turned 46 this week and I’m actually really happy to be the age I am. Sure, it’s all getting a bit crinkly, but on the inside, I’m more comfortable and peaceful than ever before.

These days, I’m grateful for the body I’ve been given – that it works, that I have eyes and ears to see and hear all the beauty that’s around me each day.

And on that note, listening to something sublimely beautiful always helps…

8 thoughts on “Be kind to you

  1. Happy birthday for this week lady, I hope it’s fantastic 🙂

    You’re 100% right about being kind to yourself, its so important. I’m always super quick to big-up everyone around me and fill their lovely heads with compliments, but have to give myself a little nudge every now and then and say ‘hey, you’re doing great’.

    Also, I’ve gotta tell you that Rebecca is one of my favourite books of all time, it’s absolutely wonderful and the film is also excellent – Laurence Olivier was a stone-cold fox 😉


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  2. chocs1976

    I need to shut the mean girl inside of me telling me bad things about myself. “You’re rubbish, you’ll never get anywhere, you won’t make it in the art worl, who are you kidding, why bother at all, noone wants to buy it anyway etc etc etc
    My head can be a real (to coin a phrase) “hot mess”.
    Anyhoo, having a bit of a low moment, so please forgive me for venting. I am a frustrated creative person. I am so on the same page with you though on all of this Suse. I feel guilty if I don’t paint every day, but sometimes the muse just won’t bite. So I spend time in the garden, watch the birds, catch up on light tv viewing (well Netflix) and knitting just lately. xx

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  3. manxbanshee

    Happy Birthday – hope you had a great day. I always think that the ‘inner voice’ has good days/ bad days – currently mine is doing the ‘you said what?????’… and trying not to be unsettled/ wound-up by virtually everything – so long bath/ crime novel & breathe…

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  4. Oh Chocs, I totally hear you.

    I once read in ‘Mollie Makes’ an article about creatives and how it can really help us if we let our creativity just be what it is without any expectations.

    For me, that means not worrying too much about who’s following me or liking what I make; it meant taking a break from/not making youtube videos, because I’d started caring too much about the numbers. It also meant not being on Design Teams and just making for me again.

    I feel like I’ve got my old love back: it’s just me and my little scrap table, whenever/if the mood takes me. And the rest of the time, it’s just everyday life and enjoying all that that offers.

    It’s a tricky one for sure, as to turn something into a living, we need to hustle and produce… and it’s almost as if those energies are in direct contradiction to the airy atmosphere of freedom that joyful creativity thrives in.

    Sending you so much love xxx

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  5. Yes, I wonder if it does?

    I tend to be wobblier when I’m out of my routine – definitely finding as I get older that for all my “oh yes, let’s be itinerant and move all over the place!” feelings, once I’m there, I do thrive on consistency and routine.

    The ‘you said what?’ voice is very common in my head… but then I do say some incredibly stupid things. Last night, I told Andy how I’d, “got the laundry in and watered the garden before it started raining.”

    I hope he didn’t marry me for my intellect… 😉

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  6. Anonymous

    Yes, it is a very thin line that separates the enjoyment from the pressure. I must admit, I have been trying just to create because I love it and simply gleaning all the joy from it that way. I bought some new canvas and acrylic paints yesterday because I felt I needed to work bigger to sell pieces, but perhaps I am looking at it all askew. I need to have fun creatively and take that tension off and unhook the burden I place upon myself. I need to be free in what I create and how I create.
    Love ya hunny. Miss you too. X

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  7. It’s so tricky, isn’t it? I think that was partly why I decided to donate any money made from my little etsy designs, just so the thing wouldn’t become at all pressured. But I know not everyone has that luxury and folks need to make a living from their art.

    I don’t know the secret to making it work at all… I don’t know how you preserve the joy, while still keeping an eye on profits, but it must be possible.

    I sometimes wonder how professional creatives keep the joy when they’re doing the same thing each time… that wouldn’t suit me, feeling boxed into one activity. But again, perhaps it’s finding that thing that pays the bills and just getting on with it.

    When I was trying to make illustration work (and I never quite made enough to be able to quit my part-time bookshop job – not that I wanted to, as I adored it) I visited a small business advisor who told me not to quit the shop until my illustration was bringing in enough to keep me afloat. I found that really good advice as it took the pressure off hugely.

    The bookshop work paid my rent, so any extra cash was a bonus. It’s finding the energy to do both though, that’s the real problem, isn’t it? :/ xxx


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