When I’m feeling low, I turn to food. Or eBay. Before going cold-turkey, I turned to social media… and wine.
What genuinely helps me feel brighter though, is being around other people.
But being an introvert, I don’t often feel like being around other people… especially when I’m feeling down.
Here are my tips for how I get that much-needed in the flesh companionship, without doing my introverted little head in…
My favourite way to socialise by far, is scrapping with friends at my kitchen table, which I do once a week, for an hour and a half.
What works about that for me is being able to talk on a meaningful level, but not having to make eye contact the whole time.
Plus, scrapbooking is something that I find inherently relaxing.
Going for walks works for me too.
Perhaps it’s the eye contact thing again, or maybe it’s that if you pick a round route, there’s a definite end point to the socialising time (knowing when I can be on my own again helps me enjoy socialising far more!)
Church is a fabulous way to socialise in a structured setting.
Even having one of our old chaps wish me a good morning as I go in, can be enough to really brighten my day.
Church Bible study groups can be lovely low-effort ways to mix too. You don’t need to say much to feel the benefits of being part of things.
Arranging to meet a friend in a coffee shop can be a good idea for me, as I get to decide when to leave!
I make sure I can see my watch, then after an hour or so of catching up – or when I feel my energy levels flagging – I just say, “Must get back – see you again soon!” and scurry off home.
Another good idea for me, is to have a couple of dedicated days when I’m free to have a friend round for a simple lunch.
It means I can get on with my jobs in the morning and afternoon, but still have that precious time of sharing that feeds my soul.
How about you? Any low-anxiety extraverting tips to share? I’d be so keen to hear!