Internet strictness

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If, like me, you’ve reached a point where you’re fed up of the internet taking over your world, because try as you might, you just can’t resist checking every few moments, here are my no-nonsense tips for reclaiming your life.

Be warned: it’s strict. But because it’s strict, it works.


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1. Ditch the phone

Seriously. Lose the thing and buy an old fashioned brick that just makes phone calls and sends texts (which, if we’re honest, is probably all we need when we’re out and about anyway).

If you’re serious about getting your pre-internet life back, you need to do this, even if you’re the only one in the world without one. Well, you and me.

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2. Position your family computer in an out of the way room

That way, any watching or checking is forced to happen where everyone else isn’t hanging out. Which feels a lot less fun and you’re automatically held a little bit accountable.

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3. Ditch facebook and limit Instagram & emailing to once a day

Seriously: if social media is taking over your world and deep down you suspect it’s a bit of addiction, take action. We only get one life, you know? Let’s live it free.

For me, facebook was the biggest addiction. I would literally think about it while watching TV in the evenings, then furtively check it during ad breaks. Not to mention the thinking up those ‘witty’ updates all. day. long.

Yes, there are some really good bits to facebook. But from where I stand? *So* much happier without it, you wouldn’t believe.

As for Instagram, my favourite place?

I sit down with a coffee at 11am each day, post a few pictures, check a selection of friends’ pictures, comment and message a bit for half an hour or so – then it’s off until the same time tomorrow. Same goes for email (though I doubt anyone finds this especially addictive!)

And blogs? Bloglovin‘ is a girl’s best friend for keeping up to date with only the posts that really grab.

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4. Consider your kids usage too

My ten year old is one of only four in her class to not have her own phone. And I’m proud of that. And her phone-less situation isn’t going to change until she’s an adult.

Harsh? I don’t think so and as long as she’s my kid, that’s the way things will be. I’m not about to hand her something I find seriously addictive, am I?

She is allowed to watch unlimited children’s programmes on CBBC and can look at online things for one hour a day – so long as we know what she’s looking at. Then she switches off and goes and plays (or more likely, goes back to her TV programmes!)

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5. Manage your own content creation carefully

I have a set figure for the number of youtube videos I plan to make each month, both faithscrappers and Design Team processes.

The number feels manageable and restful and completely without overwhelm, which leaves me free to enjoy the creation process – kind of important to a creative person.`

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6. Be intentional about video watching

I like to check my subscription feed every few days, then pick one or two of my friends’ scrapbooking videos that I know I’ll enjoy. I make an occasion of it by settling down with a favourite drink on the sofa.

But then it’s time to turn off and get back to real life again. Which is where, I’d argue, the real life is.

How about you? How do you manage your internet use? Any tips to share? 

13 thoughts on “Internet strictness

  1. I went to a flip phone. A freaking FLIP phone, and I’m mostly okay with it. My main concentration in doing this has been to monitor my ‘wait time’…waiting in line, on the elevator, on the streetcar, etc. I want to be more present and observant in those situations – not looking at my phone. So if I don’t have WiFi, I won’t be tempted!

    I have a feeling the next generation is not going to be as addicted as we have been. It was a novelty to us. Not to them.

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    1. Suse Fish

      Oh Greta, I do hope that’s the case and you’re right. I’d love for the next generation to not be so consumed by it all. Thank you ever so much for commenting! Lots of love xx

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  2. Jenny Gray

    I used to be the same way, but I no longer feel the need to ever really “have to” be on any social media.. I, however, did just discover YouTube craft videos this last fall lol and so that would prob be if one to pick where to dial back on.. I have three teens so they’re usually at school or college and after I do my housework and normal routine things I watch it while I chill instead of tv really I guess.. I’ve never been a big tv person during the day. I usually play music to clean to and if crafting I play that or YouTube videos and just listen so not so lonely downstairs in this big ol house! Lol Back to FB or instagram.. I really feel snobby because I only post and rarely EVER EVER look… making me appear to be on there but never looking or commenting on my friends and families posts and some thing I’m being snobby and depressed etc lol!! But I just don’t have that desire to be in everyone else’s world anymore. I hate when I’m in a room with anyone and they’re on their phone!! So I always try not to be. I am a photographer so I post photos on Facebook but again don’t stay on there. My husband and I share one so he tells me if I get any messages via PM.. I have only my photography business page where it can ring through and any Young living oils or the natural weight loss and health items I sell he also tells me if anyone is asking. Overall THATs the only reason I keep it.. and fear of losing any photos I’ve lost that I may need ie my sons bf was killed this last fall and tons of pics of him are on there if ever needed through the years of baseball etc.. AND lastly being a mom, I do keep my instagram which I really don’t think I know how to use correctly 😂 so I can keep up with their posts. We don’t buy them phones. Once they start driving they may have one if they get a small side job (that’ll work with their athletics and church), and pay the bill themselves, and we are allowed at any time to read their phones and look through them. They aren’t allowed to be on them at dinner, if out and esp if at our family events. Lol My husbands dad takes up ALLLLL the phones (grown ups and kids) at big holidays 😂. Love it!! We also take up the phones here when my 16 yrs old son has friends over staying the night as groups just because… and neither of our two high schoolers can have laptops in the rooms.. they have to use in main rooms. My 18 year old is almost a sophomore in college and we’ve raised her to know right from wrong biblically so she does and that’s all we can do! Sorry that was long! lol! I’ve never read one of your blogposts.. I don’t think I’ve ever read anyone’s blogging before but always been interested in doing so! If any of you do pray and believe in prayer this is an issue for my husband and me.. he is always on Facebook.. just scrolling through and I’ve asked and asked him to just be with me!!! It makes me feel unimportant and like “our” life isn’t interesting enough??.. Anyways y’all all have a wonderful day! I’m enjoying the 100 day challenge however I know I’m doing all times of memory keeping not just the scrap therapy lol!! But it’s all therapeutic to me so I keep tagging you!! I do hope that’s ok! Much love!

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    1. Suse Fish

      Aw, thank you for this wonderful comment, Jenny! What a joy to receive and read. I’ll be praying for sure. I’m glad you’re enjoying 100 Days (and glad you read my blog post – I’m honoured!) Sending so much love to you and yours xxx

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  3. Liz Young

    Hi Suse. Enjoyed reading your blog post. And I agree. Have you read “Soulful Simplicity” by Courtney Carver? I think you would like it. Edit is a big focus for me this year. When it comes to scrapbooking/creativity I am trying to be very deliberate about who I follow on IG,FB,YouTube, blogposts, and websites. I did a big purge at the start of the year by doing a big unfollow/unsubscribe. I like the idea of doing a reset at the start of Jan, April, July, and Oct. Needless to say it’s an ongoing process and my thought is if I want to decrease my screen time I’d like to be looking at and reading about things that really interest me, help my creativity, fill me up and make me laugh!

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    1. Suse Fish

      Love love love this comment, Liz! It’s lovely to hear from like-minded folks and I will definitely look that book up! I’m about to start, ‘Unseen’ by Sara Haggerty which I suspect will speak into my feelings rather well. xxx

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  4. Excellent tips! I actually ditched my phone last year and currently have an ancient flip-top on loan, with no data plan, but I have an iPad as well (of COURSE!) which is where I keep up with my social media as long as there’s wifi in range! Ever since the infamous algorithm switched everything around, I’ve been borderline neurotic about checking Instagram (which is what the cynics who run the thing want, I’m sure). Since #100daysofscraptherapy started, I’ve found myself spending more time checking out what others are posting than actually creating, which completely misses the point of the project, I know. I think I’ll stick to a set schedule and have to come to terms with the fact that I will never be able to see EVERYTHING.

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    1. Suse Fish

      I love your thinking, friend! It’s so important to keep an eye on our habits and how they’re changing… just to make sure they’re changing in ways that bring us life. Thanks so much for this wonderful comment and I’m so glad you’re playing along with 100 Days of Scraptherapy! xxx

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  5. marieprecieuse

    Wow! I think (more like I know) I need to do this. 😦 but I won’t. For me lately, the little game on the phone is even more intrusiv/addictive than social media. It’s bad 😦

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    1. Suse Fish

      Oh dear! I haven’t even come across games, not having a phone, so hadn’t considered that one! I did used to have quite a ‘Rollercoaster Tycoon’ obsession at one point though 😉 Thanks for your comment, lovely Marie Pierre! xxx

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  6. Soozee

    Hi Suze
    2 things really….1/ could you tell me HOW to delete a Facebook account? I lost my son tragically
    almost 2 years ago now and still have his phone/ipad and would like to delete his Facebook account but have followed some useless leads from the internet.
    2/ if you can somehow get an address for me to send you a brand new Bible journal ( cannot bring myself to paint in it, so going to look in charity shops for one I can ruin haha )
    I will gladly post it to you. Many thanks and best wishes
    Soozee

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    1. Suse Fish

      Oh, Soozee, I am so sorry for the loss of your son. Of course you need to change his account. If it might suit you better, you can change an account’s status to ‘memorialised’ so the profile is still there for friends and family to look at?

      Here’s what I found online:
      “First click the flower or star in the right hand corner of the page,
      Then click “help,”
      Then “visit the help center,”
      Next, type in the search box “deceased user delete,”
      Then choose memorialize or remove account.”

      I hope that helps. Sending you so very much love and a huge hug, dear Soozee. xxx

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